Mothers in Law (to be)


Does everyone have to hate their mother in laws?

Do mothers in law have to hate the girl dating their son?

Do they have to go out of their way to cause a stir?

What is it about a girl that they suddenly decide is just not worth the air they breathe?

My “mother in law” so to speak, has suddenly given me the flick. All over me wanting to cut my hair short. For context, I have long hair, but it’s annoying it curls it’s way into dread locks that I then have to spend weeks combing out and conditioning. It’s a hand full. And I threw out the idea of cutting it short. Like Ruby Rose short. Short back and sides with a longer area on top I could style. I threw it at my friends they cheered, my boyfriend asked if he could do it for me, my parents said to talk to the hair dresser first and then my mother in law.

Well she…She decided that if I cut my hair my “bad boy boyfriend” would leave me.

I was justifiably offended I feel.

She called he son shallow.

I’d say that’s grounds for being mildly offended and a tad hurt. So I said so and all I got in reply?

“Well I know him better”


He’s your son.

But if the guy was so shallow he’d dump me over a hair cut wouldn’t he have already dumped me over my stretch marks, sleepy eyes and wobbly bits?

He loves all my flaws but cutting my hair is unforgivable?

She’s like the motherfucking step mother from Tangled stroking her hair.



But I let it go and just walked away.

Facebook makes key board warriors of us all right?

And then.

She makes a call about arts students.

About how our degrees are a waste of every body else’s time and money, and how really we should all go out and get “real jobs”

Which is funny.

When arts students say it.


but that doesn’t mean she can go throwing shade on people just for shits and giggles.

What made it all that sinch more personal was her jab at my enlistment into the Army Reserves. Which amazingly I did not do to find a job but because it has been something I’ve always wanted to be involved with.

I worked hard from primary school.

I practised and practised and practised every single day with the one goal of making it to university and studying music and getting into a world renowned orchestra and playing for the world.

A waste of time?

learning an art isn’t just a job it’s a lifestyle. We choose these jobs knowing it might take a while, knowing we might be poor, or living on bare minimum but we choose it anyway.

Because we love it.

We want to share it with the world.

We want to practise our art, force our way into it’s secrets.


Am I so wrong to feel offended by her words?

As much as I know she may only talk in jest. Has she not gone to far?

poking fun and taking swings are two different things.